If you are reading this, I hope that you have already read the part one of KEY LESSONS FROM 2017. If not, click here and get caught up.
In this blog post, I am going to be sharing with you the ten lessons that I have learnt this year, revolving around chasing goals/dreams/ambitions and pursuing passions. Let’s get into it, now shall we?
KEY LESSONS FROM 2017 (chasing goals/dreams/ambitions and pursuing passions)
1. Involve God always.
In everything you do, put God first. Regardless of how small that dream that you have may be, center it on God. Begin chasing it with God. When your plans seem to fail, run to God. When you are making great progress, also run to God. In every step of your pursuit, put God first. Man may fail you, your own strength may fail you but He WILL NOT fail you, and that is for sure.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Comparison is the thief of all joy ~ Theodore Roosevelt.
Don’t compare your progress to that of those around you. I often say that, the resources that are disposed to each of you as well as your current situations may be greatly different from each other, and it is not fair to judge yourself from the same level as others. And even if everything is the same for all of you; resources, current situations, starting time, and all that; even if it is all the same, so what? You are not them, and they are not you. It doesn’t matter whether they achieve their dreams first, focus on you. God’s timing is perfect.
3. Slow progress IS progress.
It can be really easy to give up because of how slow things seem to be falling into place for us, especially when we look around and see others reaching their successes in such a short span; but guess what? It’s okay. It’s okay if it’s taking you years. If you can stand up right now and say that you have made even the slightest progress within the last decade, then you should be proud of yourself. It doesn’t matter that you are moving slowly, what matters is that you are moving, and whatever you do, DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS.
FACT: If you want something, you need to work for it. Nothing is going to come to you while you are simply basking in the sun. You need to toil for what you want. It may be hard, it may be exhausting, it may get tough, but that hustle will be worth it one day.
5. Don’t give up.
Truth is, it gets hard. It gets really really tough along the way, and in that moment, the best option seems to be to give up, but don’t. If you truly love something, don’t give up on it. When it gets tough, pray to God, talk to someone who can relate to what you are going through, but don’t give up. When you feel like giving up, remind yourself why you began doing it in the first place.
6. Surround yourself with the right people.
Birds of a feather flock together.
It makes no sense to surround yourself with people who only make you laze around and focus on everything that is not important. Surround yourself with goal-oriented people, people who inspire you and build you up. It’s not to say that you should be rude to those friends of yours who reason in a completely different manner from you. No! Be kind to them, but spend more time with those people who will help you make wise decisions, and those who help you invest your time in all the right things. Not only will having such friends pyche you up in the pursuit of your dreams, but it will also make the journey bearable when it gets tough, because you have someone to fall to and someone who can completely relate to what you are going through, and thus advise you accordingly.
Also, in that group of friends who have the same goals as you, make sure to build and support each other. Remember that, supporting another’s success will never dampen yours. If one of you gets to the top first, be happy for that person and continue encouraging them. If you get to the top first, do whatever you can to help your friends get to the top as well. Be there for each other. Don’t just be friends; be your own kind of a little family.
7. Don’t always reveal your next move.
I read somewhere that, telling people your plans/goals/dreams often makes you less keen to achieve them, because by saying it out loud, it gives you a feeling of having already achieved them. This is one reason that you should learn to not reveal your next move to everyone. Secondly, not everyone has your best interest at heart. You may share your next move with someone who you trust and a few days later, it comes to bite you in the back. Simply work and let your success do the talking. Now, I am not saying that you should go around acting all secretive and making people wonder what you’re hiding. NO! You definitely need a mentor with whom you can share your goals/dreams/ambitions with, and sometimes, you just need to talk to someone. As I once said, the voices in your mind are not enough to base all your decisions on. Sometimes, you need to hear the voices from other minds too. What I am trying to say is that, you should be more careful and very selective on who you confide in, and that’s why you need a good friends and/or a good mentor, who will, a) push you to achieve your goal, even after you tell it to them, and b) not try to sabotage you or ruin your goals.
8. Be flexible.
In the pursuit of your passions/goals/dreams/ambitions, you need to be flexible. You can’t have a fixed mind-set. When you start something, it may not always work out exactly as you plan, and you need to be able to go with the flow. Don’t dwell on failures or lack of a certain element that you needed for your goal.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can ~ Arthur Ashe.
Likewise, as time goes by, trends change, technology changes, market changes. If whatever you pursue is centered on any of these factors that keep changing, don’t complain when they do change. Learn to be flexible enough to adapt to the changes and to adjust your pursuit on whatever is now becoming favorable.
9. Value those who appreciate what you do.
As I already said in the part one of KEY LESSONS FROM 2017, I have been able to draw a line between who is really there for me, and who is not. When starting something small, be it a business or pursuing a new hobby, always pay attention to those who are supporting you. Involve them in whatever you are doing by asking them for ideas or opinions/feedback. Don’t take these people for granted because one day, when you become the successful person that you’ll be, you will owe all of that to God, and to these people who believed in your little dream; and when you do get to the top, never ever ever forget your day ones. NEVER EVER!
10. Do what you love.
Lastly, but easily one of the most important lessons, do what you love. Fact is, it gets tough in the pursuit of our goals and dreams, and if you don’t really love what you are pursuing, you can easily give up. If you pursue what you love, despite how difficult it gets, you will make it to the end, because it’s not money, fame or fortune that is driving you, but the actual love you have for what you are doing. Do what you love, and love what you do.
Those are some of the key lessons relating to pursuing goals/dreams/ambitions that I have learnt this year. Thank you so much for reading.
This is my last post for this year, so I also want to take this chance to thank all of you so much for the support that you have given my little blog this year. I truly appreciate it. Have a Merry Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year. Remember to spend your holidays focusing on who and what really matters. Do more than just exist, LIVE!
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Have a lovely week ahead! 🙂