HOW TO BE A SUPERHERO (A comprehensive guide)!

I have grown up loving superheroes. Haven’t we all? The comic books, the cartoons, the movies and even series; I have always been fascinated by them. Being younger, I kept trying to find out if I had a superpower, and, as many other kids, I kept getting disappointed. It was not until I grew older that I finally learnt and understood that, we all have a superhero within us. While some of us realize this and bring them out, others never do, and thus keep them locked up, when really, we are at a time where the world needs as many superheroes as it could possibly get.

‘There is a superhero inside all of us, we just need the courage to put on the cape.’

Some people out there want to be superheroes, but they don’t know how to do so; so, here are a few pointers on how to be a superhero! Enjoy! 🙂

img_20170614_211405.jpgI always believed that being a superhero was all about flying around the cities saving lives in the biggest way, like from a fire, or from a crash; but as I grew older, I began to realize that every day, I am surrounded by superheroes, who may not necessarily be as thrilling as Batman and Superman, but they are making changes in the world, or inspiring people. Funny thing is, more often than not, very few people will appreciate them or give them credit for their work, but that doesn’t make them any less of a superhero. You may think that to be a superhero, all the news anchors need to surround you after every good deed you do, but no! You may be making the smallest difference that nobody takes note of, and it may feel depressing or like you are not actually making a difference, but trust me, you are a superhero in your own way, and that is beautiful! Oh! And those ‘little’ differences you are making, they have a much more bigger impact than you think!

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Sometimes, all we really want to do is sit down and give up on our goals/dreams/ambitions/projects/ on anything and everything. We spend so much time and effort chasing after these things, and it just doesn’t seem to be worth it. There is a very popular quote by Martin Luther King; If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. It really emphasizes the need to keep on moving. Yes! You may get tired or discouraged on the way, but just keep moving. If you need a rest, take that rest by walking a bit more slowly, or crawling if you must, but don’t stop. Like the flash said, you may not really know it all, and you may not have it all figured out, but just keep moving forward and trust that you will find the right path. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect; make the effort and be persistent, things will eventually fall into place. Also, as in the picture, you need to learn when to walk away from certain things, and when to run towards others. I once came across a quote saying (paraphrased); learn when to be patient and learn when to be fierce. Different times call for different measures or approaches; learn how to discern this!

IMG_20170614_211319Life is beautiful; we just have to seek it’s beauty. Likewise, life has meaning, we just have to find it. No matter what you may think or say, I am a firm believer that everybody was put on this earth to do something special. Each person has a gift, talent, hobby, strength; something that makes him / her different, and hence, unique. The moment you find that gift is the moment you find your purpose, and by finding and pursuing that purpose, you become a superhero in your own right; so quit whining about how you aren’t good at anything, and start searching until you find it, because you are good at something. You have a superhero within you, you just have to find him / her.

IMG_20170614_211123As I have just mentioned, everyone has a gift, and if you want to be a superhero, you have to find that gift and pursue it. Let me add that, if you want to find that unique power or ability, you have to be willing to be different. Each superhero we have seen on TV or read in comic books has their own strength or identity. They are different from other people, and that is why they stand out. Don’t be afraid to be different. Be a black sheep and own it! That is the only way you will be able to find what makes you special. You won’t find it if you try so hard to fit within the expectations of society or ‘your friends’. Just be you; and when you do find your superpower, keep that good heart that you’ve always had. Don’t allow successes and thrills of achieving your goals/dreams/ambitions change you. Stay humble, be kind, and do all you can possibly do to make this world a better place.

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I will be the first to admit that I am normally almost in tears when I see a superhero’s ass being kicked by a bad guy. I suddenly feel the urge to wear my cape and go to their rescue. It may just be a TV show or a comic book, but I get so angry and sad. However, never at one point have I ever seen the superhero completely give up and accept defeat. Not once. Just when we all think it’s over for him/her, they get up and.. let’s just say that, the bad guy regrets ever laying a finger on the superhero. Everything changes and, long story short, the superhero beats the bad guy/guys, saves the person/people if there were any to be saved, and it’s a win. My point? I could lie to you that it’s going to be easy, but why should I? I have personally wanted to give up on some of my goals/dreams/projects countless times, but I remind myself that, one day, I will look back and be glad that I didn’t. This, right now, where you feel like throwing in all your cards and going home? This is the hardest it gets. You get through this and you’ve made it. Superheroes don’t give up, so don’t give up either!

IMG_20170614_211111Being a superhero is pretty tough; having bad guys chase you, high expectations from your agency, team and the civilians, it gets quite scary sometimes, and all that stuff. It isn’t easy to handle, and if you rely on your own strength, more often than not, you will fail and disappoint everybody. That is why you should seek the greatest Superhero of all times; God. Without Him we are nothing, but with Him, we are unstoppable. Sometimes, you will sit down and feel that all your successes and achievements are your own hard-work. You will want to take all the credit, but don’t be deceived. We owe all our victories to God, not part of them, but all of them entirely. Other times, you will be scared or tired, and you won’t have the strength to defeat the bad guys (failures, fears, discouragement, doubt from people around you). Seek God and pray for strength. He will come through for you and you will be amazed. Trust me!

IMG_20170614_211310You are worth it, and you should never feel inadequate. Don’t seek validation from people or society, because you will never ever get it. You are good enough and the first thing you have to do is actually believe in yourself. Focus on your goals/dreams/projects, and you will get there. Like Eleanor Roosevelt said,No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent. Don’t let anybody get you down. Go for it! 

IMG_20170614_211420The truth of that statement is really saddening. We live in a world where good doesn’t seem to matter anymore, but like I said to my friend, ‘just because there are no many good people today, that shouldn’t stop you from being one’. You can be the change, and you may not believe it, but it is true. Just because the world is messed up and people are doing everything that shouldn’t be done, doesn’t mean that you have to do the same. You can chose to be the difference. If you see something wrong going on, speak up and say it. Be the reason people still believe in good and justice in this world, even when they have very little reason to do so. Be the difference.

IMG_20170614_211330Doubt and hesitation is what will keep you from being a superhero. Stop thinking twice about it; you want to start your company? Do it! You want to travel the world? Go for it! You want to build a friendship with someone? Why not!? There is no time where all the stars will align themselves in your favor. Start with whatever you have and where you are; go for it. Will it be easy? Nope! Will everybody believe in you? Nope! Do you have it all figured out? Nope! Should you walk towards that door? Nope! RUUUN!!! RUN TOWARDS IT!

IMG_20170614_211140Just as I may have mentioned, you are a superhero based on what you do, however little. I would be lying if I said that I have never met a superhero in my entire life based on having not met batman, superman, spider-man, the flash, the green lantern, super-girl, daredevil and all the rest (that list is extremely long). I hang out with superheroes all the time; I go to school with them, I meet up for lunch with them, in fact, I share a roof with the second greatest superheroes that I know (the 1st being God 🙂  ). By small deeds like helping an elderly person cross the road, helping your parents carry the groceries, visiting children’s homes, however minute it may seem, that makes you a superhero!

IMG_20170614_211209In high-school, I remember that everybody wanted to be a prefect (cops), because it came with a number of privileges; you didn’t have to jog to meals, you could move out and about during preps (personal study time) and get away with it just by showing your tie (which was different from the rest),  and the best part, you could never be punished (unless you did something seriously wrong). The other day, when I went to my former high-school with some of my friends, some of the current candidates (who are cops) told us how even cops (prefects) were punished; and the first thing my friends and I chanted was, “Then what’s the advantage of being a cop?” Now that I think of it, it’s just sad that we have this mentality where being a cop or being in authority allows you to get away with doing wrong things, however small. Being a superhero means that you have a responsibility to set an example by living right. At one point in your life, you will be/have been someone who younger or even older people look up to; what example do you set? Do you encourage them to be better people by doing right things, or do you teach them how to get things through easy and corrupt ways? Let’s stop and reflect on everything you have done since you had a mind of your own; considering the life that you have lived and plan to live, do you really deserve to be a superhero?

IMG_20170614_211236I have mentioned that it isn’t going to be easy; sometimes you will be celebrating victory, and the next you are crying over a failure. Something that I have learnt is, don’t just accept failure, but also love it. There is a quote that says something about (paraphrased), success not teaching you anything, but failure teaching you everything. Imagine being a sports team in a tournament or a group in a competition; when you win, there is no need to stop and reflect on your actions, there is really no need to learn, because you did it right; you get carried away and just celebrate, but when you lose, you sit down and re-evaluate every single thing that you have ever done, and try coming up with new strategies to win. So, if you think of it, the real lessons are gained through losses and failure. That is why you should love falling; the heartbreak/failure/losses, we leave them a different person, a wiser person. Don’t just accept falling, love it too, because it makes you a better superhero.

IMG_20170614_211154Society; always telling us that unless we do this or that, we aren’t good enough. Being a superhero looks pretty amazing, but you need to be ready for a little ridicule. What people do nowadays is that, they admire you and thus, they try to be you. If they cannot be you, they hate on you in the hopes that you will give up on being the different and gifted person that you are, and just settle on being ordinary like them. Truth is, you can choose to stop being different, and you can decide to be like everyone else; no one will hate on you or ridicule you, life will be easier. You will just walk like them, talk like them, even think inside the box like them, and you will be happy being very basic. Or you can choose to be a black sheep and own it; people will hate in you sometimes, and make fun of you ( when they are secretly wishing that they had the courage to be like you), and so, life will be a bit tough. You will follow your own path and chase your dreams, you will be yourself and think as far outside the box as you want, you will inspire people, change the world and be a superhero. If you are reading this post, you want to be a superhero (as the title said) and that makes you a big enough boy/girl to make your own decisions; make your choice!

IMG_20170614_211346The hardest part is normally getting over the fear. As Nelson Mandela said,“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Especially if you are pursuing your dreams all by yourself, or you had to cut off toxic relationships to do so, it will feel close to a nightmare. It’s okay to be afraid, even superheroes get scared sometimes, but it is not okay to let that fear dictate your course of action. See beyond the fear and pursue your goals. You will be surprised by the people you meet along the way!

IMG_20170614_211045Nowadays, we want to sugarcoat everything that is wrong to make it seem right. So many things that are morally wrong, and spiritually wrong for us believers are being casually done today as though they are okay. It is difficult to resist doing wrong things, I won’t deny that, and based on that fact, people choose to justify wrong things in the hopes that doing so makes them okay to do. Truth is, it doesn’t change the reality of what’s right and what’s not. Right is right, even if nobody is doing it, and wrong is wrong, even if everybody is doing it. As superman said, there is a thick line between right and wrong; not thin, it is very thick, and even though we all want to make excuses for doing wrong, we still know the truth deep inside. If you want to be a superhero, you better be willing to make that distinction, and act upon it, without trying to justify wrong.

IMG_20170614_211247We all love superheroes for one reason (other than the fact that they have superpowers and amazing fighting skills, of course): they beat the bad guys, and always win. We have seen instances where several superheroes come together for the common good (for example; justice league), and if we want to be superheroes, that is a message we need to take home. The aim is to use our superpowers (gifts/talents/hobbies/strengths) for the good of others and the world as a whole. We have to unite and lift each other up as we pursue our goals/dreams. Support small growing businesses, be a part of them. Purchase goods and services from your neighbor, friend or relative, not because they are the best in the country or world, but because you want to support them. They will come to thank you years later when they have made it. It is easy to get carried away to use our gifts for our own selfish gain … wait! I am not saying that you shouldn’t try to make a living out of your gifts (Of course you should!); What I mean is that, we all have the power to change the world and make it a better place using our gifts. We have the power to be superheroes and create good and beauty in it; so, what is stopping us?

IMG_20170614_211033-1Life gets tough sometimes, and it is only at our weakest moment that we truly realize how strong we are. Being a superhero doesn’t mean that you are forever immune to pain; whether physical or emotional. I could not explain my surprise when, near the end of season one of the series, Luke Cage, Luke got shot…and bled! I was terrified and all I was thinking was, ‘he is the superhero, he doesn’t bleed, why is he bleeding!?’ All I am trying to say is that, sometimes,even superheroes feel everything, everything that the world thinks they are immune to; pain, fear, losses, failure, heartbreak, confusion, detachment; but what makes them superheroes is that, they don’t give up. They don’t throw in their capes and quit. They hold on for as long as it takes until they are strong again.

IMG_20170614_211055All that we have been saying just points out to the basic fact that, being a superhero entails seeing yourself as not just ordinary. You view yourself as capable of much more than just common goals. You are different and unique. You are capable of much more than you think. For the superhero within you to be unleashed, you need to see that. That being said, you need to devote yourself to an ideal. The first ideal that I would mention would, of course, be God. Finding your purpose in Him. Other than that, you need to ask yourself, why are you being a superhero? Is it to restore justice? Inspire people? Make the world a better place? What’s your ideal? WHAT’S YOUR REASON?

IMG_20170614_211103Last but not least, it’s not just about the physical strength portrayed by hulk and superman. A true superhero comes from the strength of his heart. You may be very feeble physically, but nothing can conquer the inner strength; that of the heart. You are not too small, or weak. Go be a superhero!

As always, if you want to be a superhero, remember that you need to:

IMG_20170614_212234Go help batman, superman, and all the other superheroes save the world! GO SAVE THE WORLD! Have a lovely time. 🙂

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21 thoughts on “HOW TO BE A SUPERHERO (A comprehensive guide)!

  1. I absolutely loved reading this! I grew up on comics and heroes, and I’ve also come to the realization that we are all heroes in our own story. (Finally a superhero story I get to write!) and that we all have a responsibility in this word. We must all find a purpose that’s lacking in this world, and then turn our passion into purpose.
    Can’t wait to read more! 🙂

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