Why does it matter so much to us what people think or say about us? Why do our lives have to be fueled by the desire to gain recognition of any sort? I was reading a blog post by a friend of mine nearly a week ago, and there was a part where he wrote (paraphrased) : ” We live in a world where people give to the needy or help people in the hope that someone will take a picture and it will go viral.” Why do we have to be mean to people just because we won’t ever cross paths with them again? Why are we so superficial? Why do we want things easy?
This is one of the most brilliant and mind-boggling questions that I have ever come across. Just think of it.. so many of the things we do today are tied down to even the tiniest of hope or belief that someone somewhere will see them. For example, we take so much time to make sure that our hair looks nice and our outfit is perfect before we leave the house. I am not saying that it is wrong, it is actually very important to make sure that you are always smartly dressed and looking neat / nice, but is that all? What do we do beyond our appearance that touches people’s lives or that helps a person in need? If nobody could see how you looked or what you wore, or even what you sound like, what nice thing would they say about you?
The basic similarity between realness and dinosaurs is that they have both gone extinct. I am sorry to say, but we can all agree that nothing is what it seems today. Everyone is busy trying to create an image, and there is no longer real connection between people anymore. Conversations are superficial, and all everybody cares about is themselves. In the quest to fit in, so much authenticity is lost. If you ever come across a person who is real, keep them close. It’s not that common these days.
Life isn’t all rainbows, flowers and sunsets, but unfortunately, that’s what most of us think or expect. It explains why people want quick things, and will go to the most absurd of ways just to get them, even if these ways compromise their faith, dignity or ethics. It is why people give up so easily. Life is really beautiful, it truly is, but it’s not always easy. Sometimes you will have a million reasons to give up, but that one reason that you have to keep going is what you should hold on to. Keep your faith in God, and remember to hustle. Eventually, all will be well. TRUST THE PROCESS.
My mum constantly reminds me that not everybody opinion matters. I think that statement has helped me so much, because sometimes you will here something about you that even you yourself didn’t know about.. Rumors or talk about you may be spread around and, like this picture states, even some of your friends may choose to believe them, but (refer to the statement I began with in this paragraph), not everyone’s opinion matters. If certain people can sit down and create bad talk concerning you or choose to believe it, then they don’t know you, and what they think or say doesn’t matter.
Social media. The place where we can publicly display all the good things about ourselves, but keep all the skeletons in our closet. It’s almost like a competition, and people lose themselves in the process of trying to impress everyone else. Social media isn’t a bad thing, just don’t lose yourself to it. Like the saying goes with money, don’t let it control you.
In a world where you could be anything, how about you BE YOURSELF. Be a JUGHEAD (Archie and friends comics / Riverdale reference). Be different, and embrace it.
There is no fun in being a better or worse version of another person, but there is so much beauty in being the best version of yourself. BE A BLACK SHEEP AND OWN IT. Like I always say, this doesn’t mean that you should do wrong things and call it ‘authenticity’. Make sure that you are being yourself, but in the same measure, make sure that your life is right before God.
Would you be comfortable showing people what kind of life you live when nobody is watching? Like I mentioned earlier, do you only give to the needy in the hope that someone else sees it? Are you such a nice person to people outside, but a monster to your siblings, parents or children? Are you a ‘Sunday church-goer’ type of Christian but reckless on all the other days of the week? All I am asking is, do you have many sides of you that you show differently to different people in different situations? WHY?
I wish I could emphasize enough how important loving yourself is. Why is it so important, you ask? Well, because, the moment you love yourself first, you are able to live your life without seeking validation or needing love from other people. It’s not a bad thing to be loved. What I mean is, you are able to receive love without using it as a measure for your worth, and you are able to understand the type of love you want to receive. Don’t go searching for something that you can’t give yourself first. Love yourself, just as you are, flaws and all, and by doing that, you will be much happier.
Before you open your hand to receive, stretch your hand to receive. You are not too young, too old, too rich, too poor or too anything to help someone or to make a person happier. If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything. If you are in a position to make someone’s life better, do it. If you can cheer up a person who is feeling down, do it. If you can support a person’s dream in even the smallest way, do it. If you can make a person leave happier and better than they were when you met, THEN MAKE SURE THAT YOU DO.
It’s not your money, it’s not your looks, it’s not your skin color, it’s nothing physical or outward. Nothing else matters if you have a mean heart, and no beauty shines brighter than that of a good heart. Mold your heart to seek and spread goodness.
These words hit the nail right on the hard. Like I keep saying, if someone is toxic in your life or is holding you back, le’go. It doesn’t make you a bad person. The people you surround yourself with are important as they greatly shape who you are and who you become. Don’t forget your day ones for people who rarely have time for you. Don’t push away new friendships that could help you better your future for those friends who treat you like trash. The energy or vibes that you feel / get when you are around friends is important. Do you feel motivated / inspired, happy and energetic? Or do you feel like compromising every thing? Do you feel like you can be yourself? Or do you have to be another person? I am not asking you to treat other people badly (please don’t) , all I am saying is that, your inner circle matters a lot. CHOOSE IT WISELY; and always remember that, the best inner circle that you could ever have contains, probably among others, these two people: God and your family.
I think it does matter how you live, how you treat people or make them feel and what you do in life. It really matters. While there is so much pressure from the world to be this or that, or to do certain things, don’t forget to be a good person.
As always, remember this:
Have a beautiful week ahead :).